by Eric Metcalf
You can’t drive a car without wheels, without an engine, or without gasoline. You can’t bake a cake without flour or eggs (not a good one anyway). You can’t eat a true Chicago hot dog without onions, mustard, and relish. Think about the must-haves you’ve already determined in your ministry, the things that you’ve drawn a line in the sand about and simply refused to cross. These often take lots of conviction from God combined with some real life experience for us to develop. Here are a few of the must-haves that God has developed in me when it comes to entrusting people with the high privilege of leadership:
- Spiritual Velocity
- Relational Intelligence
The apprentice must have a Jesus-centered life not a life of perfection but a life centered on Jesus. Maybe you’ve heard people list their priorities like this: God is first, family is second, church is third and job is fourth. While there certainly is some pragmatism to looking at things this way, what if it could actually play out more like this: God is at the center of our lives, and everything else revolves around Him and His will. A person with a Jesus-centered life will be impacted in all areas of their life: relationships, finances, schedule, behind closed doors, etc.
Relational intelligence is the idea that a potential apprentice needs to have the basic understanding that people matter to God and they need to matter to us. A person with relational intelligence has the knack for seeing the best in people. They’re not oblivious to peoples growth areas, like some sort of blind optimism. Instead they possess a keen ability to see greatness in someone.
Parking Lot Test – Another attribute of relational intelligence is what our staff likes to call the parking lot test. The test is simply this: when you see the potential apprentice leaders car in the parking lot as you pull in, is your initial reaction to feel excited to see them, or to hope that you’ll be able to avoid them? Its basically a chemistry question. When this person walks into a room, how do people feel? Leadership is not solely about the role, it is about relationship. Too often we assume that simply by giving someone the authority of role, people will follow them. This is not true. If someone cannot lead with relational intelligence, then they aren’t really leading at all, they’re micro-managing.
Another must-have is teachability. Teachability = humility + applied coaching. A person has to be truly willing to accept feedback in order to be developed (humility) AND they need to be willing to do the harder work of applying to create change in his/her character and/or behaviors. In fact, the entire apprenticeship concept is based upon teachability the process or role cant exist without it. If a person is teachable he/she must be willing to be affirmed, accept feedback gracefully, and be willing to change how they do things. This teachability needs to be coupled with trust, and we are responsible as leaders to develop that. If an apprentice trusts us as leaders, he/she will be much more open to being apprenticed by us.
Now go recruit your apprentice! Not sure how? Then pick up your own copy of the Apprentice Field Guide by clicking here.